Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Multi-Monthly Madness

I need to inform you of all that has been going on.  I may have to take a hiatus from blogging until everything is settled...with that said upfront; here is the past week:

Everything was going well, I finally got the second bedroom cleared out more so it doesn't feel so cramped in there--granted there are still some boxes but its not the "tower of boxes."  I felt satisfied.  Then, on Thursday last week, our lessor called me to tell me some serious news.  (You see, we moved about 6 months ago to the state we are at now because of needing to find a job before my husband was officially laid off from his job.  We had no time to sell & find a new house, so we have been renting a house). Well, come to find out, their bank informed them that they cannot keep the house unless they: A. move back in & make it their primary residence B. Refinance it as a rental mortgage & not a regular mortgage C. Put the house up for sale & no longer own it.  If they do not do one of these things, the bank will take the house from them on March 12th.  So, with only three days for them to make a decision (they asked for more time due to the fact they had renters & needed to give themselves more time & thus us more time to make a decision--they basically told them "Tough sh** that's your problem."  So, we were told they were putting the house up for sale. 

We now need to find a place to live.  My hubby & I researched & found it will be better for us to buy a house now than rent, since we have acquired the neighborhood cat & will not leave him behind since he's been getting attacked by an animal.  So, not only do we have to get the most out of our taxes.  We need to find out how much we will have to close on a house to decide what kind of loan we want & whether we can afford a conventional loan as opposed to an FHA.  Its all a tough decision.  Then we have to get a buyer agent & find a house we love & are willing to stay in for a while.

To make matters more stressful, our lessors aren't very good at picking a realtor for their house & he's a jerk!  OK, I've had a Realtor before and known how to choose one.  First, this man didn't even look at the walls (I would've suggested the owner fill in huge nail holes & repaint), he took 15 min to walk through the house, inside & out (our took at least an hour, if not, longer cuz she knew we wanted to sell fast).  He made no comments about what to improve.  All he could say to me (not the owner) "My you have a lot of stuff everywhere!"  So I responded (a little miffed)  "Well, that's what happens when you get laid off, have to move & sell your 1800 plus square foot house & move into a 1400 minus square foot house."  He had the balls to mention it twice!!  Then I guess he & the owners were talking & before they got here & he asked if I was from IN...I said "well, I went to high school there, but I'm from elsewhere."  He asked where so I told him MA.  Then his face changed & he said "SO, I 'spose your a PATRIOTS fan..."  I replied "Well, yes, somewhat but I like basketball better."  flat reply from male realtor "SO that would mean you love the Celtics."  My response "Yes, yes I do."  Then this jerk thinks he's so funny (did I mention he goes to me lessor's church?)  and starts singing "Open the Eyes of My Heart LORD; Open the eyes of my heart..." and emd's the song there.  First, if he hadn't changed his tone when he found out where I lived, I would've taken it as a joke.  Also, if he hadn't made his rude comment & actually asked why we have so little space here, I wouldn't have felt defensive & on edge.  After all this he dares to comment "You all should buy this house!"  I curtly reply "Um, no....As you can see there's not enough space for our family.  We will be looking elsewhere thank you!"  He didn't like that response, but I didn't care. 

The house owner & Realtor went outside.  The owner/our lessor came back in & told me she was leaving & let me know he mentioned about how much "stuff we had" & how he didn't like having the cats in the house.  She rolled her eyes, but my thought is...If you don't like his comments, WHY are you signing for him to be your agent just because he goes to your church!  A crappy realtor is still crappy whether he is your friend or not & you should only use who you think is best for you.  All I know is I'm going to dread every time I have to see this man, & he better let me know when he wants to show it or someone is coming & when he wants open houses....cuz I want some notice for me & my "horrible" cats to leave (my cats aren't really horrible but the Realtor doesn't like them...gosh, people have pets dude!) 

I'm wanting to find the best house for us ASAP!!  I want to move out so I don't have to deal with Mr. Judge-all Realtor.  I'm fine with him coming to the house, but I think he should layoff of us the rentors.  Its not like I'm so lowlife.  So, I stay at home, means we're doing pretty well I think.  Thank God I've learned that people's response to our decision doesn't make them right nor should it make me feel I am doing something wrong. 

So, I've got a CPA for our taxes & she can do them this weekend.  Which means we can get approved for a loan by early next week (and know which loan too!!)  I am constructing questions for interviewing buyer's agents and hope to have the sealed up this weekend as, busy busy busy.  I probably won't blog a whole lot.  I will be house hunting, tax checking, loan working, house cleanliness maintaining, box-packing fiend & super juggling wife lady with cats to move around whenever Mr. Realtor man has someone to look at this house. 

I will blog all about it when we get settled in a new home ( and have internet!!)

So, stay strong ladies & remember:  You are amazing & you made a great decision!  Don't let anyone look down on you for it.  In fact, if you ever get rude comments, nicely stand up for yourself!  If you don't like how someone is treating you:  tell them you don't like their attitude & that you feel the comments are unwarranted & its not their place to judge you for your choice of job. 

I'm out!  Talk to you all soon!

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Quoteable Tuesdays & Monday Madness

So much is going on,  I will tell all on Tip-full Thursdays! 

Here are some quotes for today--because Monday wasn't what I wanted it to be--you will understand!

Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never met."
Source Unknown

"As food is needed for the body, them same way love is needed for the soul. Food strengthens the body while love strengths the soul. A person is incomplete without love."
Source Unknown

"Love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship. It's not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end."
Source Unknown

"Don't just love him, but show him."
Source Unknown

"People need love the most when they deserve it the least."
Source Unknown

"All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us."
J.R.R. Tolkien

"The higher you climb on love's ladder; the harder you fall."
Ryan Leonzal

"Your first love is not always your truest love."
Source Unknown

"Everyone must go through a storm to get to a rainbow."

"The love we have is God's gift to us, what we do with it is our gift to God."
Source Unknown

"Once you love, you cannot take it back, cannot undo it. What you felt may have changed, shifted slightly, yet still remains love."
Whitney Otto

"In love the paradox occurs that two beings become one and yet remain two."
Erich Fromm

Have a great Tuesday & I hope Monday was amazing for you!           

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Fabulous Fridays (a day late)

Well yesterday wasn't as fab a Friday as I would like.  I got a new cell phone & realized its a horribly rated phone & mine won't charge.  I am working with my hubby to request choosing another phone maybe.  It will prob add $10 a month to our bill cuz I will need to have limited internet access.  But its worth not having a problem phone that even a new replacement will crap out in 6 months to a year.  I feel bad!  I should've looked at the reviews!  At least they give you 30 days to say "Um, I want another phone!"  Still feel stupid.  I loved how the phone looked but  I don't need a problem phone. 

Talked with my husband & we agreed that staying with the phone is, after a bunch of calls decided it was just as inexpensive to go to the store as it was to wait for the bad phone to get back to Verizon, them to return my upgrade back to what it was, then buy the new phone I want.  We went to the store & it ended up being free!!  So, awesome!  I have a much better rated phone without all the need for internet & stuff I don't need because I am at home.  So yay, but not yay to all the phone calls & stress the bad phone calls caused.  Lesson learned: always look at the reviews & consumer reports of items (even phones) before you buy.  Its worth avoiding the hassle & stress when you "pick" a bad product.  Plus, the Charter digital internet couldn't be put in (we switched to the new "deal" b/c it would save us more than just internet--shocking) because there were 150 other boxes waiting to be activated before us & the system got bogged down.  We rescheduled & I was glad.  Having to deal with internet & the phone was making me go crazy...

My day  wasn't what I wanted it to be--hardly any chores got done, I forgot to eat lunch & ate dinner late.  BAD idea because today I feel like crap (due to lack of substantial food yesterday) and I'm trying to convince my body everything is ok.

Well, I'm sure all that was boring but

Thursday, February 11, 2010

Tip-ful Thursdays

I guess since Valentine's Day is only a few days away, I will give a list of simple tips on how to make your man feel special & loved (everyday or at least on a regular basis):

1.  Always remember to kiss each other when you wake up & go to sleep!

2. Dress up all nice with your hair & makeup done when he get's home--a little pick-me-up for him!

3. Make sure to rotate in his favorite meals on your meal schedule

4. Say "I love you" to your spouse everyday & "say" it again in a unique way once a week (note in lunch, text message, soap on the mirror, sticky note--be creative!)

5. Indulge once in a while & bake some of his favorite cookies

6.  Do something useful that he didn't plan on (finding a way to save money with one of the bills, do one of his "honey-do's", stuff like that)

7. Admit when you are wrong!  I know my man loves when I do that--he knows it takes getting over your pride to do that!

8.  Don't mull over little annoying things--give each other a break!  Cut each other some slack & pass it off as miscommunication

9.  Boast about him to others--say good things & leave the annoyances for once in a while comments to your best gals

10.  Put something extra in his lunch (even if its a little healthy!)

11. Get him some chocolates!

12.  Buy him a single "manly" flower (get a man-ish color with a black, navy or brown bow--no sparkles)

13.  Learn to curb your shopping tendencies how ever you need to!!

14.  Dress up in some lingerie after the kids are in bed (or if you are kid-less, have him see you like that when he comes home)  Be ready for some grownup fun!

15.  Rent a movie he wants to see, even if you aren't particularly into action or thrillers, etc.

16.  Have dinner at a set table when he get's home once in a great while.

17.  Have a sit down dinner with no interruptions!!  Use the fancy china & nice glasses!

18.  Take a walk together--even if its around the neighborhood!

19.  Find out something he really would like but has never asked for--get it for his birthday.

20.  Remind him of holidays & special events--that he needs to plan ahead to get what you want!  Give him a chance to not miss it!

Hope this tips help you!  Remember, no matter what you do this Valentine's, make it something worth remembering for years to come!

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Wonderfull Fun Wednesday!

So we need a funny today to pick us up on the middle week blues--especially some of us that have had nonstop cloudiness for over a week now!

Here's some good laughs for you:

- Jules Feiffer
"I used to think I was poor.
Then they told me I wasn't poor, I was needy.
Then they told me it was self-defeating to think of myself as needy.
I was deprived. (Oh not deprived but rather underprivileged)
Then they told me that underprivileged was overused. I was disadvantaged.
I still don't have a dime. But I have a great vocabulary.'

A man was in his front yard mowing grass, when his attractive blonde female neighbor, Judy, came out of her house and went straight to the mailbox. She opened it, then slammed it shut and stormed back into the house.

A little later she came out of her house again, went to the mail box, and again opened it and slammed it shut again. Angrily, back into the house she went.

As the man was getting ready to edge the lawn, she came out again, marched to the mail box, opened it and then slammed it closed harder than ever.

Puzzled by her actions the man asked her, "Is something wrong?"

To which she replied, "There certainly is! My stupid computer keeps saying, YOU'VE GOT MAIL."

Hope these made you laugh like I did!  Hang in there & have a great day!  

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Quoteable Tuesdays

Quote time!!  I'm on the move getting the house in order & making my blues fly away!  Its great..rewarded myself with a little treat after I went out in the nasty weather to pick up the trash bag that was attacked by a farmers dog that's been raiding all our trash barrels.  This dog has been caught numerous times & the story ended up in the paper (cuz the cops were roaming around trying to catch what they thought was an identity thief, but instead found a rummaging dog).  Its been two weeks since the article & the house still hasn't done anything to keep their dog from roaming in our neighborhood.  Well, my trash was the lucky--or unlucky--one hit last night.   It was ALL over the backyard!  Ucky doo!!  I used a shovel for what I didn't want to touch & got the rest all up; now back to my regularly scheduled domestic diva chores now that I've been duly rewarded for my work.

So here's a quote for you!

Never take life seriously. Nobody gets out alive anyway. 

"Flying is learning how to throw yourself at the ground and miss." - Douglas Adams 

Last night I lay in bed looking up at the stars in the sky and I thought to myself, where the heck is the ceiling. 

Constantly choosing the lesser of two evils is still choosing evil. - Jerry Garcia  

If Barbie is so popular, why do you have to buy her friends? 

The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.   (love this one!!)

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. It's just that yours is stupid.
If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular?  

When you are courting a nice girl an hour seems like a second. When you sit on a red-hot cinder a second seems like an hour. That's relativity. - Albert Einstein

The road to success is always under construction.  

And a ponder-able I found for today:

Is it good if a vacuum really sucks?

Monday, February 8, 2010

Monday Madness

I'm sorry ladies for the sporadic blogs...from winter weather to Aunt Flo--its been crazy & not fun.  I'm still not at my top but I insisted on doing something around the house.  I somehow pulled a muscle in my back and have to take a bunch of advil to function.  AH, but I still did some work!!  I refuse to not start on tasks that have been sitting for days.  So, I went & did the dishes & swept gingerly (so not to hurt my back)...I'm feeling rather "When did I turn 80!!"  and figured out its probably my poor posture causing the issues.

I'm on a focus to start sitting & standing up properly so I don't get back aches anymore!  I will let you know how that goes...well, its time to get dinner started & finish the rest of my chores!  Keep working hard & hope your Monday was nicer than my mad Monday!!

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Quoteable Tuesdays

Today was better...though the tiredness is still there.  I'm getting what I can done and keeping going until I feel a little satisfied.  Almost there, just want to get some clothes put away & the dishes done.

Its the day for quotes, so I've found some on the theme of love, this is February!!

The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.



Have a great day and make sure to let some people know how much you love them!!  



Monday, February 1, 2010

Monday Madness

What a crazy weekend.  I got all these crazy things going on:  winter storm, wonder where Aunt Flo was ( she was three weeks late & scared me!!), convincing a neighborhood cat that he is not healthy enough to venture out in the wild, cold world as of yet. 

So, first, winter but kinda locked us in our house for a few days.  I really enjoyed going outside, but not what else caused me to not have as much fun:  wondering why my "monthly gift" was three weeks late.  Then, I started getting tired, the breast soreness & moodiness---made me nervous my hubby & I may have been expecting!!  But alas, if I was pregnant, I'm not now--Aunt Flo has come in full horrific force & she is causing much pain for me...bring on the Midol, calcium & chocolate!  I feel horrible!  Where's my martini??  Oh wait, I don't have a butler or maid---have to make that one myself.  So, either way, I'm a little peeved at the lateness of this month.  Put me in an awful scare, screwed up my hormones & is making me feel lousy!  So, Monday madness is put off until this situation is cured.  Anyone else had a month like this??  I was all ready to deal with the fact we were possibly expecting--we couldn't get out to town sooner because of the storm, so I guess I won't know if this is just period or a I really care right now, not particularly--I know God knows what's best & we really want to wait until the end of 2010 to start a family.  I don't mind having an answer about this, but do I have to be in this much pain?!!  OH well, grab me some vitamins, spinach, milk & trusty midol--things should get better by tomorrow!! (I've got stuff to do around this house!)

Hope this Monday finds you mad in a good way!  And I hope you are having a better month that me--guess its not that bad, but I hate feeling incapacitated! 

Oh, check out my new blog template!  Its for February!  Welcome the month of love!